The Host asks for a Volunteer to Lead the meeting. The Host is able to screen share while the Lead reads the script.

 Lead Reads Aloud

COSA Diversity Statement

  • COSA Diversity is consistent with the Third Tradition of COSA, which states that the only requirement for COSA membership is that our lives have been affected by compulsive sexual behavior.
  • The COSA Fellowship welcomes all genders, all varieties of relationship to the addict, all religious and spiritual preferences, all employment statuses, all marital statuses, all ethnicities, cultures, and languages. COSA does not discriminate on the basis of class, financial status, sexual orientation or gender identification, physical or mental challenges, race, or national origins.
  • In COSA, we find hope whether or not there is a sexually addicted person currently in our lives.
  • COSA Diversity is consistent with the First Tradition of COSA, which states that our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends upon COSA unity.

Sponsorship Meeting 

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Welcome to the COSA Zoom Room Sponsorship meeting. My name is _________and I am doing service for this meeting.

Before we begin, please unmute your audio to join in saying the Long Version of the Serenity Prayer.

The Serenity Prayer (Long Version)

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.  

Patience for the things that take time,
Appreciation for all that I have,
And tolerance for those with different struggles. 

Freedom to live beyond the limitations of my past ways,
The ability to feel your love for me and our love for each other,
And the strength to get up and try again even when I feel it is hopeless.



Lead demonstrates the “Applause” sign

We welcome you to this Sponsor focused meeting and the Zoom COSA fellowship, extending to you our support and friendship.

Everything that is said in this meeting and between members must be held in confidence. This promotes open and honest sharing of our experience, strength, and hope, creating a trust level that many of us have never before experienced.

By working the Twelve Steps in COSA, we gain a new perspective on ourselves and our lives.

When you are not speaking and for the safety of the group please:

  • Stay attentive, avoid cellphone use/texting and minimize distracting movements.
  • Mute your microphone so that any background noise will not disturb the speaker.
  • Keep your video on. If you must step away or temporarily stop your video, please inform the group in the chat.
  • Remember chats sent to ‘Everyone’ in the chat may be saved by everyone in the meeting.

In a face to face meeting it is appropriate to thank each speaker after their share. In the zoom room, we borrow the applause sign from American Sign Language as an alternate way of expressing our gratitude.

In this meeting our hope is to both share and gain Experience, Strength and Hope.

Our hope is that both those who are seeking a sponsor and those who are willing to sponsor will have a space to learn more about what healthy sponsorship is like and form relationships with other COSAs.

To that end, if you are comfortable, we recommend that you put your email address in the chat so those connections can be made. 

The most effective way to find a sponsor is to attend as many meetings as possible, watch for someone who has the kind of recovery that you would like to have, and ask them to be your sponsor. 

It is important to remember that if they say “no”, it’s not about you, but more likely about their time availability or other commitments at the moment.  Keep asking, because your Higher Power has just the right person at the right time chosen for you.  

There is another way to find a sponsor should you be unable to do so fairly quickly.  There is a Sponsorship Coordinator who may be reached at  She is a wealth of information.  

Lead asks for Volunteer to read the reading of the day.

Lead Reads Aloud

Now it’s time for our Sponsorship reading/audio of the day.


Now it is time for us to share our Gifts and our Needs.

We will start with those who are able to sponsor followed by those needing a sponsor.  Please share a bit of your story.

Sponsors might include your Journey, Recovery – including turning points and tools, and Expectations for sponsees.

Please limit your sharing to three minutes. The floor is open to sponsors to share.


Would someone be willing to read “The Gifts of the COSA Program”? 

With the Twelve suggested Steps of recovery, and the wisdom, experience, and support of the COSA group, we discover the faith and acceptance to let go of the situations we were once desperate to control, and the courage and strength to grow in matters we once avoided or denied.

Gradually, the gifts multiply. As our awareness increases, so does our personal power and self-esteem. In our relationships, we learn detachment and become more fully present. In continued recovery, we live our lives in deeper joy, serenity, and fulfillment, one day at a time. 

To sign up for weekly topic meetings, click here.

The Seventh Tradition 

Now is the time for us to honor the Seventh Tradition to be ‘fully self-supporting, declining outside contributions’.

Our groups have no established dues. Funds collected cover expenses such as website and PayPal fees, delegate fees, and donations to the ISO.

At the end of local COSA meetings, a basket is passed for our Seventh Tradition. In the Zoom room we have the easy option of making contributions via PayPal donation

To receive the weekly topics, the host may put the link in the chat on request.

I Put My Hand In Yours

Please unmute your audio and join me in saying I Put My Hand in Yours”: 

“I put my hand in yours, and together we can do what we could never do alone. No longer is there a sense of hopelessness, no longer must we each depend upon our own unsteady willpower. We are all together now, reaching out our hands for power and strength greater than ours, and as we join hands, we find love and understanding beyond our wildest dreams.”

Rozanne S. From I Put My Hand in Yours. Copyright 1968 by Overeaters Anonymous, Inc. Reprinted by permission of Overeaters Anonymous, Inc.